Outside my window…
a red shirt, a red sweater, and a jeans skirt. Can you tell that I like the color red?
I love my daughter and her happy, thoughtful, helpful nature.
“While bestowing such constant care on her girls, the Christian mother must be mindful of the special difficulties which attend the education of boys, of the terrible struggles which await men in the battle of life, and of the imperious necessity of so arming their soul in advance as to put all the chances of victory on their side. Your boy is doomed to battle with the general corruption, the low thoughts, the low aims, the low tastes, and the lower manners of the generation among whom his lot is cast ; he will have to battle with inveterate and powerful prejudices against his faith, with a current of scientific opinion gathering daily fresh depth and width, and tending to sap the very foundations of revealed religion; against the influence of a literature and a press bitterly hostile to all that he has been taught to look up to with reverence and worship; against a ” human respect” more seductive and degrading than the witchery of the fabled enchantress of old, who only held out to thirsting lips a cup full of all delights, and then changed all who tasted it into beasts and kept them beasts forever : and, what is worse than all, he will have to battle with his own heart and its inclinations amid a world solely occupied in ministering to sensuality and passion. God alone, with His fear and His love firmly seated in the heart, while it is as yet free from sin and evil habits, will be all-powerful to give courage and strength and perseverance and final triumph even to the best and bravest against such a combination of adversaries.
See how many of the boys you behold yearly kneeling in our churches for first communion or confirmation fail to hold their virtue or even their faith firmly till manhood. If your eye could follow each generation as it grows up, the few who remain steadfast in the piety or faith of their youth are like the rare ears of corn on the harvest-field when the sickles of the reapers have disappeared and the sheaves have been housed. It is of all duties the most important as well as the most difficult to ground your boys in true piety and in that true Christian manliness of which piety is the beautiful crown. Think of the heroic temper which the great Christian soldier mentioned in the following passage must have received from his mother’s teaching, and consider well how you are to imitate her in your training of every boy of yours.” (The Mirror of True Womanhood, pp. 264-265)
As the quote above indicates, I am still reading The Mirror of True Womanhood. This week, I have been reading about raising boys. I think that my boys might find this passage interesting:
We are in 1257, at Cologne, and assisting at a solemn ceremony, the knighting by a papal legate of a young prince, elected king of the Romans, and soon to be crowned as emperor of Germany. Mass has been celebrated, and William, Count of Holland, who has only reached the preparatory degree of squire, is presented to the legate in these words : “We place before you this squire, humbly beseeching that in your fatherly kindness you would accept his desires that he may become worthy of associating among knights.” To which the cardinal-legafce replies, addressing himself to the young prince:“What is a knight according to the meaning of the word ? Whoso desireth to obtain knighthood must be high-minded, open-hearted, generous, superior, and firm ; high-minded in adversity, open-hearted in his connections, generous in honor, superior in courtesy, and firm in manly honesty. But before you make your vow, take this yoke of the order which you desire into mature consideration. “These are the rules of chivalry:
1st. Before all, with pious remembrance, every day to hear the mass of God’s passion.
2d. To risk body and life boldly for the Catholic faith.
3d. To protect holy Church, with her servants, from everyone who will attack her.
4th. To search out widows and helpless orphans in their necessity.
5th. To avoid engaging in unjust wars.
6th. To refuse unreasonable (excessive) rewards.
7th. To fight for the vindication of innocence.8th. To pursue warlike exercises only for the sake of perfecting warlike skill.
9th. To obey the Roman emperor, or his deputy, with reverence in all temporal matters.10th. To hold inviolable the public good.
llth. In no way to alienate the feudal tenures of the empire.
12th. And without reproach before God or man, to live in the world.
“When you shall have faithfully attended to these laws of chivalry, know that you shall obtain temporal honor on earth, and, this life ended, eternal happiness in heaven.”
When the solemn oath on the Gospels had been taken, the rank of knighthood was conferred on the kneeling suppliant in these words: “For the honor of God Almighty I make you a knight, and do you take the obligation. But remember how He was smitten in the presence of the high-priest Annas, how He was mocked by Pilate the governor, how He was beaten with scourges, crowned with thorns, and, arrayed in royal robe, was derided before King Herod, and how He, naked before all the people, was hanged upon the cross. I counsel you to think upon His reproach, and I exhort you to take upon you His cross.” (The Mirror of True Womanhood, pp. 269-270)